Angie Mroczka asked this question earlier this month, and I’ve been pondering it since then.
When I look back over my life, I most lament my refusal to listen and my negative attitude. My refusal to listen has kept me from being fodder for people influencing for negative as well as positive things, so I can’t say that I would have changed that without some compensating skill.
The negative attitude, though. With what I’ve learned over the last two years with the MasterKey Experience, I’m sad I wasn’t ready to learn a more positive approach until recently. Hard-headed as I’ve been, reaching this point has been 56 years in the making, and I’ve had a relatively painless journey. I know so many people whose journey has been so much more challenging. I don’t wish more challenge in my life, but I marvel at the challenges other people have faced, met head on, and persevered through. The more I learn about other people’s journeys, the more respect I have for where they are today in their lives.
When you find yourself wondering why some people are the way they are, change that to wondering what they have gone through or are going through to get them where they are today. Vow to be a positive part of wherever that place may be.
So, no, I wouldn’t really change anything about my life. Everything has happened for a reason, even if I don’t always know what that reason has been.


Natasha has always been my special kitty. The photo above was an early photo after she settled into the house when it was just her, me, and Hershey (she ignored Hershey, and Hershey, wisely, paid her no mind) in Alabama. I found her on Petfinder in 2005. She’d been in foster care for two years, and they estimated she was about two years old when they found her. She had a minor deformity in her left eye where her third eyelid stuck. It required periodic treatment, but mostly it didn’t affect her.


The morning after my surgery, Mr. L called to say Natasha was having trouble and wanted to know when the clinic opened. I told him they opened at 8 and would be open by the time he could get there. I don’t know what happened, but his next call was at 11:03 am to tell me she was gone.